We delved into the topic of I D E A L S. This is not to be confused with goals.
By definition, an ideal is a standard of perfection or supreme excellence. If you look at your life, I'm sure that you have ideals on how certain aspects of your life should look. Whether it's your love life, your career, your body, or your dream home. It's probably safe to assume that you have an ideal of what those things should look like in your head. (By the way, the notion of IDEALS is one of the reasons why Pinterest is so successful.)
I'll give you an example of an ideal in my life...
While growing up with my aunt and uncle, I always had a relationship with my dad. He would come over at least once a week, and made it a point to call me almost everyday. When college came around, I would stay with my dad on breaks. Now, this was the first time I'd ever really lived with my dad. It was like perfect strangers. He didn't know me, and I didn't know him. It was not my ideal father-daughter scenario.
Repeatedly, I was disappointed by him and his inability to do or say the right thing by me. My ideal was this platinum image of a loving father who enjoys spending time with his daughter, loves to have fun, is exciting, makes a ton of money, and can take on the role of mom as my confidant. (Cue angelic music and blinding halo's.)
I realized that my ideal was UNREALISTIC. Because if my dad were capable of doing and giving me the things that I'd requested or needed, he would. The reality is, he can't, and it just ... IS.
That is a hard pill for most people to swallow. In fact, most people are stubborn and refuse to accept that "it just IS". So, they lower their expectations thinking that they will not be disappointed. When that fails, the lower their expectations again, just to belabor the point.
The truth of it is (and this is what my friend and I talked about at dinner) you need to prepare yourself to go EVEN lower than your lowered expectations and see the reality.
R E A L I T Y
Can you think of any ideal in your life? Are you able to see the reality beneath it?