After the breakup with my ex-boyfriend nearly a year ago, I looked at these same questions. I could have locked myself in a prison of dark thoughts -- and I did for a few days. For the record, I think it's healthy to feel the emotional sadness of heartache. It aides in being able to move forward from it. Instead of seeing that situation as a disaster, I chose to see it as grace. (Allow me to be cliché for a moment) It was a beautiful disaster. It was not a nightmare, but a dream come true. If you ask me, I ought to send my ex a gift basket, thanking him for redirecting my path! For me, it ended up being the propitious choice that has propelled me into a place of authenticity, productivity, joy, peace, and love. What's not to be grateful for?!
Never being satisfied with the gifts that we were given, we covet what the next person has. Perhaps this is part of the motivation behind cheating spouses, 'Wall Street greed', or larceny. Indeed, we live in a society where we are cajoled to buy the best to maintain appearances. Consider that none of that matters and chose to be grateful for your situation, and even your possessions. There is always someone with less than or worse off than you.