As children, we were such visionaries, right? So pure and innocent, and we really thought...scratch that, we believed that we could do anything! Some of us even thought we could fly. Some of us even went one step further and tested out that hypotheses, and still have the scars to remind us to this day. Note to all: never attempt to jump out a window with a plastic Wegman's grocery bag. Not saying I did this, or know anyone who did, of course. (Okay, fine. Me and my brothers may have attempted this once.)
But as you start to age, you inevitable hit a point in your life where you've made an error or failed, or disappointed someone you love -- likely mom or dad. And for the first time ever, you become aware that something is wrong. You've been told so. Either verbally or non-verbally. And so begins the dialogue with yourself:
"I'm never jumping out of that window ever again!"
"I'm never doing show and tell again!"
"I'm never going to say that again!"
"I'm never _________ again!"
And you build and build on these "never again's" until you eventually arrive at:
"I'm not ____________ enough."
>>Insert: smart, good, pretty, kind, thin, tall, nice, etc.
Now let's back up a little and shift our perspective on accepting criticism. Let's not look at it from the POV of someone bringing you down and making you "bad" or "wrong". We know there is no such thing. Maybe it's that mom or dad believes in you so much that they want you to to do your absolute best in whatever it is that you're up to. While it's true that not everyone will see your power and your excellence in your abilities, there are people who care for you and are going to point out areas to you where they see the need for improvement. Recognize that it's not malicious. It's actually for your benefit.
Sometimes it can be tough, and you may not see it right away - or in that moment. Trust that there's an upside; as there always is. As you get older, and accomplish more things, your level of "I can" increases. Conversely, your level of "I'm not enough XYZ" can decrease - if you'll allow it.
The key is understanding and awareness. Notice when that feeling of defense or wanting to protect yourself comes up. There is such greatness inside of all of us and we grow up being AFRAID of that power within.
Your power is itching to come rushing out. May you be brave and courageous in allowing it to shine. Even if it just means something as small as saying hello to your crush. FIND OUT that "worst that could happen"-- don't just do nothing. Like with everything we do, it's a practice. Eventually it'll be like your favorite accessory. You'll never wanna leave home without it.