This has translated into my adult life. I live just outside of the city (Manhattan, that is.) in a small residential neighborhood in NJ. It's literally right across the Hudson and is home to the best view of the Manhattan skyline. Ever. I guess in a lot of ways, it's lack of "stuff to do" has aided me in keeping my communities as varied as they are. I never did the Brooklyn thing (though, I could see myself there), I certainly never did the Queens thing, and I don't ever intend to live in a shoe box in Manhattan that is absurdly over priced. While I applaud, and sometimes am slightly jealous of the people who do do the Manhattan thing, it's just not for me. Right now.
I started to look at this whole VARIETY thing and questioned whether or not this was a "good" thing or a "bad thing" -- cue the sea of self doubt and violins. I was reminded of the 6 Human Needs that Tony Robbins talks about (click on that link and press play!!). The 2nd one on that list is UNCERTAINTY. We need that element of surprise; problematic surprises included! So for me, I really love the variety of people, activities, music, fashions, food, etc. As it relates to people though, is my fear that they will get sick of me, or that I will get sick of them? The answer is both. In some ways it prohibits me from making any sort of commitment.
As I worked with my coach this past Sunday, he asked me what area of my life is not working as well as I'd like. The first thing to come to mind was CONSISTENCY (or, certainty). He chucked in agreement, which made me feel a little less crazy and a lot more human. Right now, of the 6 human needs, I think uncertainty disproportionately outweighs the rest. It's all about finding a balance, right? So the action that I'm going to take to bring consistency into my life is writing a blog post here everyday until next Tuesday, 10/2.
It feels good to take this on. It's the beginning of transformation in other areas of my life to come!